Their are always times when each of us has well... a stick up our butt, woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning, and just those that should plain as day go back to bed and start the F* over. I've been their many many times myself, and I've actually HAVE GONE BACK TO BED to restart my day lol. But my question is what do you do with people that you can not send back to bed ( lol wouldn't it be nice if you could send your boss to time out or bed time? or in college or Dean or a Professor to do the same?) ?
So you would think since I AM one of these people some of the time I would understand how to help them. That is how it works for most other things. But here I stand clueless. I've tried to just continued to be who and what I was doing at the time, other times I've tried to help the person see how powerful they are and that works for a moment to snap them out of it and then it just makes them pissed off like "why the f* are YOU telling ME to be powerful you F*!" Most of the time I just leave them alone, but just a moment ago I was trying to help my Significant Other get out of the funk he has been in all day by asking him if he could try to be powerful. He then got mad blah blah. *** Note he has asked me to ask him to be powerful when he gets like this.
Now I feel screwed over. Damed if I do, slightly less damed if I don't only that I will not get direct blame for trying to "fix" it on top of what ever else is going on that is irratiating him at the moment due to the stick still securely placed. Does anyone an answer to what I could do other than leave the area with my S.O.? That is just what happens and I hate it. Why do I hate it so much? Because its a form of rejecting him, and it does NOT work when you are traveling AT ALL and I've tried lol.
So in all this is my question to you, how do you deal with difficult people? How does it affect you? How does it make you feel- do you have panic attacks when things go wrong as I do sometimes? Are you ok with these situations or would you rather deflect them? Please feel free to leave comments in the comments right below this post!
AUU: I am a woman on a search for self improvement after living a life full of things that many women all over this globe have experienced, the pain of abuse in more than one way:physical, sexual and emotional. My goal you ask? To be a better person than I was before this horror came into my life and previously stopped me in my tracks. Here through my own search of healing and growth to thriver, I hope to help others change their own life into ones they only can dream of.
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Sunday, June 13, 2010
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From Angela Shelton: Thank you to the good men!
Happy Valentine’s Day to All the Good Men in the World. I Love You!
by ANGELA SHELTON on FEBRUARY 13, 2010 · COMMENTS
in LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
This is to all the good men out there. I wrote a post about the freaks and creeps but wasn’t talking about you. I know many of you good men out there and this is the shout-out to you. Hallelujah for you. Thanks for being patient. Thanks for putting up with us. This is to all of the good fathers I’ve met, my adopted BACA dads, my adopted dad Jake, the men who made sure of it that I ate and had a roof over my head, the loves of my life (the good ones), male feminists, men working to protect kids, male survivors in the trauma movement, my mentors, all the men who made it possible for women like me to move forward in this world and the good men stuck in this strange time in between when you ruled the roost with your fist to watching Queer Eye for the Straight Guy. It’s hard for you good guys sometimes. Thank you to all of you who are in touch with your inner feminine, who understand that times are shifting and who roll with it and remain good men.
And to my love, I’m sorry for all the times I acted like a crazy beeeeach. Thank you for making this world a better place by being in it. Thank you for your patience and belief in me. Thank you for understanding that I’m dedicated to a mission and a cause. Thank you for not giving me grief for farting in bed. Thanks for nurturing my lower back issues and taking your time with me. Thanks for learning new ways of thinking and doing. Thanks for doing things like Ariel dancing playshops with me. Thank you for giving me my space to travel on my own. Thanks for being secure and confident in yourself and not holding it against me when I’m submerged in work and you don’t hear from me for days. I love you. I appreciate you. I think you’re mighty fine and I love that you’re in my life. Happy Valentine’s Day.
Image by Hiking Artist - another good guy!
by ANGELA SHELTON on FEBRUARY 13, 2010 · COMMENTS
in LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS
This is to all the good men out there. I wrote a post about the freaks and creeps but wasn’t talking about you. I know many of you good men out there and this is the shout-out to you. Hallelujah for you. Thanks for being patient. Thanks for putting up with us. This is to all of the good fathers I’ve met, my adopted BACA dads, my adopted dad Jake, the men who made sure of it that I ate and had a roof over my head, the loves of my life (the good ones), male feminists, men working to protect kids, male survivors in the trauma movement, my mentors, all the men who made it possible for women like me to move forward in this world and the good men stuck in this strange time in between when you ruled the roost with your fist to watching Queer Eye for the Straight Guy. It’s hard for you good guys sometimes. Thank you to all of you who are in touch with your inner feminine, who understand that times are shifting and who roll with it and remain good men.
And to my love, I’m sorry for all the times I acted like a crazy beeeeach. Thank you for making this world a better place by being in it. Thank you for your patience and belief in me. Thank you for understanding that I’m dedicated to a mission and a cause. Thank you for not giving me grief for farting in bed. Thanks for nurturing my lower back issues and taking your time with me. Thanks for learning new ways of thinking and doing. Thanks for doing things like Ariel dancing playshops with me. Thank you for giving me my space to travel on my own. Thanks for being secure and confident in yourself and not holding it against me when I’m submerged in work and you don’t hear from me for days. I love you. I appreciate you. I think you’re mighty fine and I love that you’re in my life. Happy Valentine’s Day.
Image by Hiking Artist - another good guy!
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